”A lifetime of suffering will never be worth a moment of love”. —Laura Chouette
If you’re in a violent relationship, your first priority is very simple: Get yourself and your kids to safety. Statistics show that the most dangerous time for women living with batterers is the point at which they leave the relationship. (The vast majority of battered spouses or partners are women, but if you are a battered man, all of this advice applies to you as well.)
This means that you will need to find housing somewhere that the abuser can’t find you—-a battered women’s shelter, a hotel, or the home of a friend that the abuser doesn’t know. Don’t go to your parents’ house, your best friend’s house, or somewhere else where the abuser is likely to look for you.
GET HELP. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help in finding local resources and planning for safety. You can call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text “start” to 88788, or chat live at: the hotline.org.