We’ve looked at planning to leave and leaving quickly. Today, some tips for after you leave.
Whether you had time to plan or had to leave in a hurry, there are steps you can take to stay safe once you’re away from the abuser. Immediately change your phone number and don’t answer the phone unless you know who is calling. Be sure that your new phone number is unlisted and blocked so that it can’t be easily discovered. You may also want to rent a post office box or arrange to have your mail delivered to the address of a friend or family member. Some states have address confidentiality programs that provide substitute address and mail forwarding services.
If the abuser does contact you, make a note of when, how, and what happened. If you have a restraining order, keep it with you at all times. If you believe the terms of the order have been violated, call the police or contact the court right away.
Here are some additional suggestions from the NCADV:
*If you are staying in your home, change the locks
*Don’t stay alone
*Change your routine frequently
*Think about how you’ll get away if the abuser confronts you
*If you have to meet the abuser, do so in a very public place
*Contact people you trust at your workplace and your children’s school so they can be alert for anything unusual
“You are not the darkness you endured. You are the light that refused to surrender!”—John Mark Green